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Are you striving for success but feeling unhappy? Maybe you’re holding yourself back with some limiting beliefs or behaviours. In order to achieve lasting happiness and success, you need to let go of some things.

Here are seven things you need to give up if you want to be successful and happy.

1) Dwelling on the past

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It’s easy to get caught up in the negative things that have happened to us in the past. We dwell on our mistakes, our failures, and our missed opportunities. We allow our past to define us and hold us back from living the life we truly want to live. But it doesn’t have to be this way.

The only thing that matters is what choices and actions you make from today forward. You can choose to dwell on your past and let it hold you back, or you can choose to learn from your mistakes and use them as motivation to live the life you truly want to live. It’s up to you.

Mistakes are learning opportunities. Each time we mess up, we have an opportunity to learn and grow from the experience. If we choose to view our mistakes in this positive light, we can use them as stepping stones towards becoming the best version of ourselves. After all, what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger, right? Learning from our mistakes makes us wiser and more prepared for whatever life throws our way.

Today is a new day. A day full of possibilities. A day for you to move one step closer to your goals. A day for you to take action and create the future you desire. Don’t let your past hold you back. Choose to live in the present and create a bright future for yourself.

Remember, you are not your past. The only thing that matters is what choices and actions you make from today forward. So choose wisely and take action today!

2) Resisting change

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If you want to make big moves in your life then you need to be open to change and new ideas and ways of doing things.​ If you want to stay stuck and never grow then do what you’ve always done. ​

​Change is hard. It’s scary, especially when we don’t know what the outcome will be. But, if you want to make big moves in your life, you have to be open to new ideas and ways of doing things. That means letting go of what’s comfortable and familiar – even if it isn’t working for you. It can be tough to trust that something new will be better than what you’re used to.

Fear of the unknown may keep you stuck. But, if you’re stuck, sometimes the only way out is through change. If we want to grow and make big moves in our lives, then we need to be open to change. This doesn’t mean that we should make impulsive decisions or jump into things without thinking them through first. But it does mean being open to new ideas and ways of doing things.

Change can be hard, but it can also be incredibly rewarding. Be gentle with yourself as you take small steps towards something new. So next time you’re feeling resistant to change, keep showing up for yourself and remember that growth is always worth it in the end. You deserve the amazing things waiting on the other side of change!

3) Negative self-talk

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Life is filled with many challenges and hardships, don’t let the voices in your head be the biggest obstacle to keep you stuck.​ So often in life, we are our own worst critics. You are not alone. We all have voices in our heads that can be negative, especially during difficult times in our life. But just because you have them, doesn’t mean you have to listen to them. If we’re not careful, this negative talk can become a self-fulfilling prophecy, holding us back from achieving our fullest potential.

​We get caught up in a cycle of negative self-talk that can be hard to break free from. The next time you find yourself engaging in negative self-talk, try to reframe your thoughts in a more positive light. Instead of telling yourself that you’re not good enough, remind yourself of all the times you’ve succeeded in the past.

In fact, you can choose to trust the loving, gentle voice that is building your confidence and cares for you unconditionally. This is the voice of your true self. It knows what is best for you and will never lead you astray. Take a moment to tune into this trusty voice, and let it guide you through to the other side. You’ll be glad you did. Trust that you have the strength and ability to overcome whatever challenges come your way. Be gentle with yourself, and build up your confidence with each step forward.

Life is filled with many challenges and hardships, but don’t let the voices in your head be the biggest obstacle to keep you stuck.

4) Blaming everyone and everything for your problems

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One of the most important things to remember if you want to be successful in life is that you need to take responsibility for everything that happens to you. This means not blaming other people or things when things go wrong. It’s easy to blame other people and things when something goes wrong in our lives. It’s human nature to want to find someone or something to blame so we don’t have to face the fact that we made a mistake or that we’re not perfect. Blaming others only breeds resentment and distrust.

Instead, trust that you can handle whatever comes your way and that you are capable of finding a solution. This can be a difficult mindset to adopt, but it is essential if you want to create a life that you love. When you take responsibility for your life, you open yourself up to limitless possibilities. You become confident and trust that you can create the life you want. You also start to attract more positive people and circumstances into your life. So if you’re ready to start taking responsibility for your life, remember to do so with trust, care, and gentleness. You deserve nothing less.

We all make mistakes, but it’s how we learn and grow from them that matters. By taking responsibility for our own lives, we can build trust, confidence, and care in ourselves and others.

5) Complaining

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If you’re feeling down about your life or your situation, it’s important to remember that complaining will not make things better. In fact, all it will do is lead to more unhappiness and frustration. If you want to change your life for the better, you need to trust that things will work out and focus on the positive. If you trust that the situation you’re in is for your highest good, then you won’t feel the need to complain about it. You’ll know that whatever is happening, there is a reason for it, even if you can’t see it yet. Be gentle with yourself when you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. Remember that this too shall pass. Everything changes and nothing stays the same.

This doesn’t mean you should ignore problems or pretend they don’t exist. But it does mean redirecting your energy towards finding solutions instead of dwelling on what’s wrong. When you approach your life with trust and confidence, amazing things can happen.

So instead of complaining, focus on what you’re grateful for and start taking steps towards making the changes you want to see in your life. You deserve to be happy and successful!

6) The need for approval

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If you need other people to give you all the answers or tell you that what you’re doing is right then you will not find true happiness and success. ​

​In any situation, it can be helpful to receive approval from someone we trust. This can be especially true when we’re embarking on something new, unknown, or challenging. Knowing that someone else believes in us can give us the boost of confidence we need to keep going. However, there’s a difference between seeking occasional reassurance and needing constant approval. The latter can prevent us from trusting our own instincts and judgement, and limit our ability to take risks.

If you find yourself constantly needing others to tell you what to do or second-guessing your decisions, it may be time to reconsider your approach. Instead of looking for external validation, try to build a foundation of trust within yourself. This doesn’t mean you should blindly charge ahead without asking for input from others. But it does mean learning to trust your own judgement, even when it’s different from someone else’s. Doing so will allow you to make decisions based on what you believe is right, rather than what someone else thinks is best for you.

Learn to trust your gut and have faith you will always figure it out.​

7) The need to always be right

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I’m wrong a lot of the time and I’m okay with that. ​Here is the secret… even for the ones of us who look like we have it all figured out… we don’t. ​

We are all on this journey of life trying to make the best choices, but it’s okay to not have all the answers and ask for help.​ It’s okay to not always be right. Asking for help is a sign of trust and love. It shows that you are confident enough in yourself to trust that someone else can help you figure things out. It is also a sign of care. You are showing that you care enough about yourself and your own journey to ask for help.

BONUS TIP: The need to be motivated and feel happy all the time

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Most people think they should always be happy or feel good 24/7. ​Here’s the real truth, no one is happy every day and it’s never going to happen. ​

​​Unsuccessful people only do things when they feel like it and this is why they’re unsuccessful.​ The key is to not let those days stop you from moving forward. Build confidence in yourself that you can handle anything that comes your way. And remember, it’s ok to ask for help when you need it. We all need a little support sometimes. So don’t be afraid to reach out to someone who loves and cares about you. They’ll be more than happy to help you through tough times.

Showing up every day is essential to success, regardless of how you feel. Successful people trust that their hard work will pay off and that the process will work. Trust in yourself that you can do it. Be gentle with yourself when you don’t feel motivated or happy. It’s ok to have those days. Everyone has them.

Be kind to yourself and build confidence by doing something small every day. The biggest piece to success is just showing up consistently and doing the work even on days you don’t feel like it.

Most importantly, remember that success and happiness are a journey, not a destination. Enjoy the ride!


Things to give up if you want to be successful and happy
7 Things You Need to Give Up If You Want To Be Successful and Happy

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